It was an interesting day Sunday as the day sped by, especially in the afternoon when some different things started to happen.
In the afternoon my wife got a call from a friend who was quite upset about a mutual friend we have and what that friend has been saying about us to other people. At first I got kind of upset because of course or I hope like most people, we see ourselves as such good friends. We always look for ways to help benefit friends when an opportunity presents itself, we give a lot and we’re very mindful what we say to and around people. How & Why would this seems to be x friend act in this way? Like I said I was very disturbed.
However in an instant moment my mind flipped and said “STOP!” I started to think, “If I am nobody now and I’m caring what every little person thinks about me, what am I going to do when I begin to accumulate wealth? What Am I going to do under the scrutiny of a larger audience of people?” At that point I just laughed to myself, I considered the source of the negative message and just forgot about the whole thing, because people are going to form their own opinions of you no matter what you do and say to them. People need to create enough drama to keep their lives interesting it seems.
Then the universe confirmed this whole thought process to me. Once I stepped downstairs, then channel was on 60 minutes which was doing a piece on an American olympic skiier. The pre-interview spoke about the expectations of the American community for this skiier (sorry don’t remember his name), because he’s so fast, and skis so well everyone expects 5 gold medals, etc. They also had statements from Ski coaches saying he’s great, but he’s unorthodox and sometimes a wreckless. Yes he’s a brilliant skier, but he drinks, parties, makes millions from a sport that’s not even huge in America, yes he’s flawed.
When he was questionned about all these different thoughts about him, the high expectations, the pressure, and the ski coaches seeing him as wreckless, he said he didn’t care. Basically he said, people will do whatever and say whatever about him no matter what he does, especially since he’s not an ordinary person. He went on to say he’s dedicated to his craft and his family who’s been there for him at the start (He was home schooled to the 6th grade). He even addressed what’s percieved as excessive partying and drinking, saying he knows it’s bad for him, especially when he’s banged up before he has to ski. However, he knows this is something he has to rectify, not because OTHERS say it’s a big problem, but because he knows within himself that it needs to be done if it’s going to affect his craft.
It was a really interesting piece that addressed and confirmed what I was thinking in the 1st place.
After that a friend came by (I’m working on a project for him) and we began to talk about the same thing and this mentality people have of “I don’t want to be your victim, so I don’t want to help you.” Even when it’s a mutually beneficial situation, regular or “UN-REAL” people don’t want to help because they don’t want to feel like their used. Even though they will never do anything on that level of success or even use that connection for someone else they don’t know.
When it comes to friends, it seems like if they consider you on the same level as them, they don’t want you to benefit because they see it being taken advantage of. Yet if a bigger brand, company or person approaches them with no benefit to them, they see it as a worthy “CAUSE”. No they’re not getting anything out of it, but they get the satisfaction of saying that company “USED” me and my expertise and wow that’s so great. They don’t say their job takes advantage of them, the government takes advantage of them, the statisticians take advantage of them, the store takes advantage of them, marketers take advantage of them, etc.
They rather say, you’re my friend and I don’t want you to help elevate us by taking advantage of my talents and connections, so go find another way to do it. What a screwed up thought process if you ask me!
I got the message from the universe the 1st time, but all these conversations and messages confirmed it even more for me. Then I reflected on what I read in How To Become A Billionaire, which stated how Bill Gates, Warren Buffett, etc had to have a thick skin because what they were doing in their own rights was something exceptional.
So if they have to deal with fighting anti trust lawsuits from the government and monopoly inquiries from their market place, who am I to care what 1 single person thinks about me?
Who cares what people think? I can only be the best person I know how to be!
Thanks A Million for taking time to view my thoughts 